Here is a reframing tool I discovered recently that’s so simple, it’s brilliant. It helps children (and adults) deal less…
Category: behaviour management
When a child gets under you skin!
I am going to ask you (as a parent/carer/teacher/anyone who has regular contact with children) to think hard about the…
Conditions of worth and unconditional positive regard.
This post looks at Carl Rogers’ personality theory and how part of it relates significantly to our parenting/caring of children. The…
Dealing with point-blank refusal from your child
In a pupil referral unit, point blank refusal from a child is such a regular event that staff are not…
Tackling Difficult Behaviours
As exhausted parents/carers/teachers, we tend to manage difficult behaviours in a reactive way e.g. a reprimand, the removal of an…
Delayed gratification
I am sure many of you have heard the Stanford marshmallow experiment where young children were told they could have one…
Article in ‘The Lady’
This week I was lucky enough to be interviewed by Lily Law from, ‘The Lady’ about what I do. Here is the…
The normative effect
(This is a post about older children and teenagers.) I learnt about the normative effect several years ago at a…
The ‘after chat’
Being a parent or carer is not an easy job. It’s 24/7 and there isn’t a manual to guide you.…
Punitive versus restorative
When a child does something wrong, most of us have been taught that the child needs to be punished. Punishments…
I am wondering…
Obviously nobody can guess what another person is feeling with 100% accuracy all of the time. “I am wondering…” is…
Sticking to your guns!
What I cover in this post will seem obvious but I think it’s always good to reflect a little because…